Creative Solutions for Dealing with Separation Anxiety

Separation anxiety is a tough reality for most parents at some point during their child’s early years at school. Encouraging your child to be confident while away from your presence isn’t easy and will take time as your child slowly lets go of the fear of being on her own. With a few creative techniques and some precautionary steps, your child can successfully move past her separation anxiety so that she can continue to learn and grow at school, unburdened by the stress of your absence.Rule Out Real IssuesIf your child is complaining about stomach pains (that you might want to chalk up to nerves) make sure to see a doctor first to verify that your child is, in fact, physically fine. Also, sit down with your child’s teacher to make sure that he is not avoiding school because of bullying or a difficult class. If none of these things raise a red flag, then sit down with your child and have a conversation that encourages him to verbalize his fear of being away from you. This helps him to recognize exactly what’s causing his anxiety and can make it easier to come up with the right solution. Create a Step-By-Step PlanStart by finding or making something that will share meaning between the two of you, perhaps a bracelet or a small trinket that you can both hold onto while you’re away from each other. Promise your child that you will keep yours on you at all times while you’re working, and anytime you look at it, you will think of her. In the same way, reassure your child that whenever she gets nervous or scared, she can look at their trinket and know that you love her. Reward Positive BehaviorWhen dropping off at school goes smoothly, allow your child a small reward – whether that’s the ability to use the phone to send a text message to his or her other parent, or a small treat – whatever will best motivate your child to manage his or her anxious feelings. Celebrate Successful AccomplishmentsKeep track of the number of days your child is able to maintain a positive attitude while at school and away from you. After a certain number of successful days, reward your child with some devoted bonding time. Make sure your child knows what she or he is working toward every day that they go to school on a positive note, as well.Though conquering separation anxiety is not an easy task, with these creative steps and some positive affirmation, your child will grow more confident in their ability to go to school and be on his or her own for longer periods of time. It will take some time and there will certainly be good and bad days, but with some patience, your child will grow to enjoy spending time at school once again. The Orlando Catholic school's blog page has helpful hints for parents to encourage their children to excel academically, spiritually, and socially. To learn more about Catholic schools in Orlando, contact us at 407-246-4800.